A well spoken, daughter of a wealthy family who taught me that manners were more important than anything. A stoner, who would rather smoke joints all day then put forth any effort to integrate into society. I am also a lover. I love instantly and without judgment. I love so many people that I have become overwhelmed with the amount of those I worry about. I can’t be with all of them all of the time and my heart hurts to not have those I love near me.
So I fight every day with which person I’ll be, does it hurt too much to be the lover? Should I just let the stoner win out and stay along this path where I’ve begun to care about nothing…
I don’t know. I guess I’ll just keep going and see who takes over in the end.”
[I]magine what would happen if, instead of centering our beliefs about heterosexual sex around the idea that the man “penetrates” the woman, we were to say that the woman’s vagina “consumes” the man’s penis. This would create a very different set of connotations, as the woman would become the active initiator and the man would be the passive and receptive party. One can easily see how this could lead to men and masculinity being seen as dependent on, and existing for the benefit of, femaleness and femininity. Similarly, if we thought about the feminine traits of being verbally effusive and emotive not as signs of insecurity or dependence, but as bold acts of self-expression, then the masculine ideal of the “strong and silent” type might suddenly seem timid and insecure by comparison.”